Friday, September 3, 2010

Pet Names

I am not referring to names that we give our pets although my husband does resemble a rather lovable but untrained golden retriever at times.  I am referring to pet names for our significant others.

Awhile ago while visiting with friends, I had called my husband sweetie and one of my husband's male friends had remarked, "Sweetie.  You call your husband sweetie?  You've been married how long?  (Five years this year if you were wondering.)  I haven't heard anyone use that since college.  Sweetie.  Hmpf."  All of this was said with a sneer.  He then went on to list the names his wife calls him.  Unfortunately, I can't print most of them.  He was being a little overly dramatic about it but how do we address our loved ones?

My husband is most certainly not one for PDA's nor had he ever been a victim of Romeo & Juliet Syndrome which seems to afflict those who are young, naive, and more carefree (and less caring of the feelings of those who have to witness their exuberance over being in love). Nor is he one for overly romantic gestures.  When he came home after a month in CA, he brought me a loaf of Boudain sourdough.  He also stopped at Wal-mart for a bouquet of flowers and a chocolate bar (and the gift he promised our daughter that he would bring her from CA-a yoyo).  It was a sweet gesture and I was touched.  I'm also a sucker for chocolate.  Bring me chocolate and I will worship at your feet.

I never really paid attention to what pet names our friends used for their spouses or even if they used them at all.  I started to notice after my husband's friends' comments.  Some of our older friends seemed more likely just to use their spouse's names.  Maybe because after many years you exist in a comfortable familiarity that it doesn't seem as necessary to use those pet names or maybe it is generational. But our friends our ages (in their late 20's/early 30's) did use terms of endearment when conversing with their spouse's especially when they were trying to get their significant other's attention or when they were exasperated.

Not only have I noticed other pet names I use for my husband (including ones that others may find nauseating) such as Cute Boy but also my tones when I use them.  That one began when I worked in retail and the women I worked with all had boyfriends Well, except Annette but she was also in her 60's and still bitter over her divorce.  I don't think a one of use was married. It started with our boss using the nickname Cute Boy to refer to her boyfriend and then it became the nickname for all of our boyfriends.  "So what are you and your Cute Boy doing tonight?"  It stuck.  I do make sure to only use it within the confines of our house to avoid the heckling of our friends. Of course, our daughter now will yell up to her dad on the second floor, "Cute Boy, Cute Boy".  The first time she did it I was literally almost rolling on the floor laughing.  My husband wasn't quite so amused.

"Now, do you see what you've done?" he said to me. 

I use less complimentary tones when I am annoyed or frustrated when employing pet names when addressing my husband.  I find that I use pet names especially when I am annoyed.  Maybe to soften the blow when I inevitably have to explain why I am annoyed?

What have you called your husband or boyfriend today?

Do you do use pet names in public?  What are some of the funnier pet names you have heard?

12 comments:

MommyLovesStilettos said...

We call eachother Babe all the time. Just out of habit. I never even think about it honestly and I don't really pay attention to what our friends call their spouses unless it's something really strange or funny :)

Shell said...

We call each other sweetie all the time. He calls me peanut and button, too.

We've been married for 7 years. :)

Mindy said...

We totally use pet names and we're celebrating 6 years tomorrow. My preference seems to be honey and he likes babe, which my family thinks is hilarious. I also call my kids ridiculous pet names such as "pumpkin face" and my daughter is my "sweetheart." I like pet names. They are silly, but sweet and connect people.

Kerin Lee said...

We call eachother baby, honey, SWEETIE, sweetheart, and my favorite honey bunny. He also calls me his princess :)

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Aging Mommy said...

This is a bad one, but 16 years ago when we first started dating somehow my husband and I ended up calling each other Bunny. It's so awful I know but somehow it stuck, thankfully shortened to a less nauseating Bun. We both use it all the time and yes, our daughter can be heard sometimes shouting BUN! to one or other of us too.

Joy said...

We use hun and babe a lot to! I think button and bunny are sweet pet names! My daughters are also not exempt from the pet names. I call them my little M&M's (Em & M for Madison). When Madison was first born I called her M a few times and my husband commented on how I was going to confuse them so now I refer to them collectively as my M&M's!

Margaret Almon said...

Somehow "goose" became a term of endearment for us--though we each protest that the other is the true goose. . .

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blueviolet said...

My daughter just told me the other day that she calls her boyfriend Pepper. What????

Hannah said...

I use pet names toward my husband all the time too, but have noticed that I use them more when I'm annoyed, also. It really does soften the blow of my annoyance/frustration with him, and also causes me to soften my tone and approach with him.

Lourie said...

Dear, honey, sweetie, Wifey and Hubby. Mostly "dear" though I think.

Buckeroomama said...

LOL at your daughter calling out Cute Boy to your husband!! :)

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