Friday, November 19, 2010

A Long Drive

Does this mantra sound familiar?

"No, Mommy!  I can do it myself".

Every time I hear it it makes me a little sad but a little relieved as Emmy does more and more on her own.

She WANTS to dress herself, choose her clothes, spread the butter on her toast, get her own yogurt out of the fridge, and even climb into the car by herself.

In my head I am saying "you go, girl".  It makes it a little easier on mom when they CAN do these things on their own.

But what about the night when she says "no" to our nightly bedtime ritual?

Jammie time, monster hugs (or dinosaur hugs or just plain hugs depending on our moods) and kisses, a bedtime story being read, and I love you's being said.  It hasn't wavered since she was an infant. 

I can picture it now.  I will be the one with the pout on my face as it feels as though my heart is being squeezed by her little hands. 

When will she be to big for bye-bye hugs when I drop her off at grammy's or at preschool?

As I was driving home from delivering her fundraiser to family I was thinking about how Emmy is growing (her sister to) and becoming more and more independent. 

They are going to continue cutting that cord day by day.  It is like a rope fraying over time.  But does it ever really get cut all the way?  Even when they are grown?

I'm still a new mom by mom standards-my kids are far from grown.  Does it ever really feel as though that cord is cut?  I never thought to ask my mom.  I need to ask her. 

I always think of these things when I am driving.  I remember asking my mom lots of questions-usually in the car on the way to one place or another-about life, love, or anything else on my mind.  I can still remember driving in the car one night and asking her about how she met my dad and how she knew he was the one.

Next time I see her I'll have to ask her.  It will probably be on a ride somewhere.  I wonder what her response will be?  Because will it be what I want to hear?


varunner said...

I love it when they do things on their own, but I have to admit - it sure can take a long, long time ;-)

Aging Mommy said...

This is a lovely post - I like your description of this process as a frayed rope that frays a little more all the time. I think I will be so very sad when my daughter tells me she doesn't want to do her nighttime routines and more.

As for the cord being totally cut, well I think that depends on the Mom and Daughter involved. For me, I really truly hope it is never completely cut. Sounds like that is the case with you and your Mom :-)

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parenting ad absurdum said...

Oh, this is what we hear around our house 24 hrs a oldest is only five, but I can't imagine ever not feeling like he's my baby - even though he'll be taller than me in a few years!! (I'm 5 ft 2 and my husband is 6 ft 2 - they both take after their dad!)

Liz said...

i always think of stuff when i'm in the shower...when it's impossible to ask anyone or write anything down. :)

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