Monday, April 12, 2010

Moving Day: Coping with Moving

We have all had friends or family move away.  It seems in the last year, we personally have had several close friends and family members move.  Ironically, before that we probably couldn't name any close friends or family who had moved away while we have been married.  With the downturn in the economy, many people are relocating due to job losses or new opportunities.  While it is a chance to make a fresh start, there is also a lot of uncertainty moving so far from your support system of family and friends.

What can you do as a friend to help those moving?

  • Promise to keep in touch 
With social media such as Facebook and Twitter, it is easier to stay in touch with family and friends.  Letters and photos in the mail are always an unexpected surprise to.
  • Stay positive 
While you may miss your friends, telling them how much you hate them moving away repeatedly may make it harder for them.  It is important to tell them how much they mean you but while you may miss them, think how much harder it is on them.
  • Offer help
Offer help packing and loading up the moving truck.  Babysitting so they can have some alone time amidst moving preparations can help them tremendously. 
  • Throw them a going away party
If you have a lot of mutual friends, throw them a party-a chance to get everyone together one last time.
  •  Lend an ear
Listen if your friend needs someone to talk to. 

How to cope with moving away from family and friends:
  • Bonding time 
This is a chance to become closer with your husband and children.  Don't forget to talk with your children about moving and how they are feeling.  It is going to be a new experience  for everyone. Look at your family as the explorers of your new neighborhood.       
  • Eat, drink, and sleep
With so many new changes, staying healthy is important.  Eat right, drink plenty of water, and get enough sleep. You don't want to add being sick to your list of things to deal with in a new place.
  • Go out  
Meet your neighbors.  Ask them for recommendations for pediatricians and things to do.  They are also knowledgeable about local babysitters (they may even have children who babysit).  Check out Meetup.com for mom's groups or other groups that meet in the area that may interest you (scrapbooking, photography, etc.).  Join a local church, gym, or visit a local community center to meet new people to add to your network of friends.        
  • Stay in touch with your family and old friends 
Phone calls, emails, visits home, and a chance for your friends to come visit you on vacation are all  things you can look forward to. Your old friends and your family are still there for you even if they are no longer right around the corner.  Technology is an amazing thing for staying in touch.  Webcams are a relatively inexpensive option so you can still "see" everyone when you are talking to them.        
  • Stay positive 
While you may not be happy moving, it is important that your children see that you are on board with your move.  It will help make them feel more secure.  This is a chance to reinvent who you are and to let go of any past mistakes that you may have made.  Make this a fresh start for your family.
  • Be realistic 
It is going to take time to adjust and feeling lonely and out of sorts is normal.  Don't expect to feel settled overnight.  It will take time to make new friends and build up the support system you had where you used to live.      
         
 Keep in mind that you are never alone.  Your family and old friends are just a phone call away.

6 comments:

Lourie said...

Oh how I needed this when I was a kid and many of my friends moved far away. And how I needed it over the years as hubby and I moved around--he was in the military. All of these are spot on.

The Drama Mama said...

These are great tips. I hate moving. I told GC I'm done. I can live in this house forever.

blueviolet said...

I'll start a sign up sheet for all of the aforementioned suggestions. I'm open to all help. :)

Daisygirl said...

I agree with you when a close friend or family member move away we feel sad for ourselves....great advice thinking about how they feel. It's hard to move! I sure hope I don't do it any time soon!

J. L. W. said...

I can't imagine having to move with little ones. My husband and I joked when we moved into our house several years ago that this was our "forever house".

Scarlet of Moms Wear Your Tees. com said...

Moving is hard work and an emotional drain. But it is also exciting and rewarding! Good luck with your new place. Have fun getting setttled in!

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